A friend just announced she's pregnant with twins. I honestly can't imagine having twins. I remember throughout the adoption process, people saying "Well, now that you've decided to adopt, you'll get pregnant". I remember being so paranoid of that very thing.
You see, Emmett was real to me long before I knew who he was. There was a piece of my heart tied to something invisible in Korea. I think that many people who don't experience adoption don't understand the strong connection pre-adoptive parents feel toward their future children. Even before seeing a picture, or being matched. Once you committ your heart to an unknown child, at least my experience is, that you're signed and sealed to that child, whomever they may be.
Maybe it is similar for my friend who is going to have twins. I wonder if the minute that little plus sign shows up on the test, if that is the moment which signs and seals your heart to the child within.
It amazes me at how God ties us together with such strong bonds, whether concieved in the heart or concieved in the womb.
Another thought occured to me as I try to write the text for Emmett's announcement. In adoptive circles who'll hear the term "Gotcha Day" - which refers to the day in which your child was placed in your care. I mentioned this in passing to my sister-in-law, K, who actually expressed my same feelings on this term.
Gotcha Day seems so inadequate a label for a day packed with such emotions. I can't come up with a better substitute, but would love it if someone else did. Suggestions welcome!
Ok - no more procrastinating! I have to get this text worked out! Ah - tomorrow is tumbling for Emmett - a good day is any day where he gets so flat out exhausted that he can barely stay awake for the 10 min drive home! Yippee!
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How about "blessed day." I think that sounds a lot nicer.
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